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Postby meridian » Wed Jul 20, 2011 2:53 pm UTC

...so sexy...
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Postby doogly » Wed Jul 20, 2011 3:31 pm UTC

There are just not enough people in the world anymore who look good in a tuxedo and banana skirt.
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Postby meridian » Wed Jul 20, 2011 4:05 pm UTC

Oh, there are people who would look good, but few who would try.
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Postby podbaydoor » Wed Jul 20, 2011 4:43 pm UTC

Why doesn't this ever happen anymore?
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Postby Aaeriele » Wed Jul 20, 2011 4:47 pm UTC

I can support this current post trend. :3
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Postby podbaydoor » Wed Jul 20, 2011 7:34 pm UTC

Aariele, you need to check out this AWESOME clip of Marlene Dietrich dressed in top hat and tails at a show. She sings, then kisses a woman on the mouth, and then flips a flower to her male co-star. Pre-Code movies were awesome.

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Postby Chuff » Wed Jul 20, 2011 8:04 pm UTC

I can't find a picture, but I'm reminded of the episode of Gilmore girls where Alexis Bledel/Rory where's a suit to be her grandfather's best man at her grandparents' second wedding thing. Adorable.
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Postby Sandry » Wed Jul 20, 2011 9:42 pm UTC

Wanted to pass this on, from a friend of a friend - seemed appropriate here. :)

For all those times we've wailed in here about "and how the hell do you find jeans/shirts/etc. that fit?!"

http://inkdot.tumblr.com/post/7243925631/no-shit
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Postby Aaeriele » Wed Jul 20, 2011 9:52 pm UTC

I remember seeing that post somewhere; it's a good post.
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Postby Plasmic-Turtle » Wed Jul 20, 2011 10:06 pm UTC

I thought about all of that, and then I thought that in elementary school, there should be a class for girls where they sit you down and tell you this stuff before you waste years of your life feeling like someone put you together wrong.
And then after the class in elementary school where they've explained this stuff, can they have a class where they teach us how to sew?! We had one hour a week for a total of two "terms" (a term being a quarter of the school year) throughout my entire schooling, and it was an ineffectual exercise with one teacher in charge of 30 twelve year olds with sewing machines. My Mum hated sewing so I hadn't learnt any, and the teacher generally had a pained look on her face most of the time when I'd go to ask her a question.

The materials end up being more expensive than the off-the-rack stuff much of the time, but I'm thinking it could be worth it for nice clothes that fit properly. Maybe I should try to teach myself. Add that to the list of things to do!

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Postby RoadieRich » Wed Jul 20, 2011 10:20 pm UTC

Sandry wrote:Wanted to pass this on, from a friend of a friend - seemed appropriate here. :)

For all those times we've wailed in here about "and how the hell do you find jeans/shirts/etc. that fit?!"

http://inkdot.tumblr.com/post/7243925631/no-shit

This might be of interest to a number of people here.
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Postby Enuja » Wed Jul 20, 2011 10:54 pm UTC

For a very long time, I've been buying my clothing at thrift stores. In the past, I always tried the clothes on, to get things that at least fit reasonably well. But, where I live right now, none of the thrift stores (and I go to three different ones on a regular basis) have changing rooms and mirrors! So my pants just do not fit AT ALL any more. I wore a nice, professional looking pair of slacks to a job interview on Monday, but it was pretty obvious to me that I would have looked more professional with better fitting pants. So I took in those pants on Monday night, and wore them to another interview on Tuesday. Yeah! But I really don't know how to alter clothing very well. A pair of jeans I altered a year or so ago look awful (they fit OK, but the seam down the middle of my ass looks awful), and the slacks I altered this week have a funny pouching where the side seams transition from my seams to the original seams. This pouching is much less obvious than the previous ill-fitting nature, but I want clothing I alter to look like it fits perfectly! I was thinking of also altering two pairs of pants I have, that have the type of seam you can see and that I messed up so much with the jeans, but I'm nearly certain my skill isn't up to it. I think the slacks worked as well as they did because I basted after pinning (in the past I've just pinned, not basted), but I clearly have no idea what I'm doing.

Does anyone know a website or otherwise have good directions on how to alter pants to fit? (I have a large rear and a relatively small waist, so almost anything I buy, used or new, needs to be taken in at the waist.) I'm short and learned long ago how to hem, but other seams are much more challenging.

You know, I've never even considered taking a sewing class: there was a sewing machine in my household as I grew up, I used it occasionally, and my mother eventually bought me a sewing machine for Christmas. She taught me to use it to her best ability, but she was never particularly skilled with the machine. Maybe I should do that. I still want advice about self tailoring clothes, though!

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Postby Cathy » Wed Jul 20, 2011 11:14 pm UTC

RoadieRich wrote:This might be of interest to a number of people here.

Coolest thing ever. That is awesome.
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Postby natraj » Thu Jul 21, 2011 12:31 am UTC

I buy my pants from here lately, they also take your measurements and custom-make you jeans. Or shirts or anything! But I can never find pants that fit so I get them there for ~$50 a pair which is pretty great for bespoke pants.
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Postby feyayeruka » Thu Jul 21, 2011 12:45 am UTC

podbaydoor oh thank you for posting that marlene clip. mmmmm

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Postby Jessica » Thu Jul 21, 2011 2:38 am UTC

Holy crap, custom made jeans!?!

Why have I never heard of this before?
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Postby feyayeruka » Thu Jul 21, 2011 2:47 am UTC

I've been dreaming about custom made jeans for a while, but every time I've enquired, it seemed more expensive than I can reasonably afford. (But honestly, can one really put a price on a perfectly-fitted pair of jeans that are not only comfy but make my well-rounded curves look great!?)
So perhaps I'll look into it again. I'm fairly sure I don't have the sewing skills up for the job, and for really good results, I think one needs an overlocker.

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Postby RoadieRich » Thu Jul 21, 2011 7:17 am UTC

feyayeruka wrote:I've been dreaming about custom made jeans for a while, but every time I've enquired, it seemed more expensive than I can reasonably afford. (But honestly, can one really put a price on a perfectly-fitted pair of jeans that are not only comfy but make my well-rounded curves look great!?)
So perhaps I'll look into it again. I'm fairly sure I don't have the sewing skills up for the job, and for really good results, I think one needs an overlocker.

The kickstarter project I linked does put a price on it: 60 USD (plus $15 international shipping) - that's about $70 AUD, which, looking at a couple of Australian shopping websites, doesn't seem that bad.

I'm sorry, I seem to be stuck in Kickstarter Evangelist mode, give me a moment to find the reset button...
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Postby cephalopod9 » Thu Jul 21, 2011 8:44 am UTC

Plasmic-Turtle wrote:The materials end up being more expensive than the off-the-rack stuff much of the time, but I'm thinking it could be worth it for nice clothes that fit properly.
How does that add up, economically speaking? I mean, if I make myself think about it, buying in industrial sized quantities, and processing and storing it on that scale saves money over packaging the fabric and yarn as a separate product and storing 'em tat way, but something as got to be wrong wen te loser to raw materials you get, the more expensive things are.
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Postby Enuja » Thu Jul 21, 2011 2:40 pm UTC

Yeah, my personal discovery that buying fabric is usually more expensive than buying clothing was really disappointing, and contributed heavily to the fact that I stopped buying fabric and patterns to make clothes. I make wallet-thingies that go on my belts (because they are difficult to buy, and maybe impossible to buy as simple as I like them), but I don't make standard clothing from scratch.

But I've recently realized that I don't have to make clothes from scratch to use my sewing machine to make my clothing better. I can alter them, if I can learn how. I am definitely sticking to altering cheap thrift store clothes right now.

Because I was really liking the "women in suits" trend, here is a link to a picture of an actress (Camilla Belle) at a May event in a white tux with a black ribbon tie.

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Postby podbaydoor » Thu Jul 21, 2011 3:40 pm UTC

Now that's a well-cut suit.

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Postby feyayeruka » Fri Jul 22, 2011 11:47 am UTC

RoadieRich wrote:
feyayeruka wrote:I've been dreaming about custom made jeans for a while, but every time I've enquired, it seemed more expensive than I can reasonably afford. (But honestly, can one really put a price on a perfectly-fitted pair of jeans that are not only comfy but make my well-rounded curves look great!?)
So perhaps I'll look into it again. I'm fairly sure I don't have the sewing skills up for the job, and for really good results, I think one needs an overlocker.

The kickstarter project I linked does put a price on it: 60 USD (plus $15 international shipping) - that's about $70 AUD, which, looking at a couple of Australian shopping websites, doesn't seem that bad.

I'm sorry, I seem to be stuck in Kickstarter Evangelist mode, give me a moment to find the reset button...

you know, I looked at their website when you posted it before, and I never caught on that by sponsoring their project, you actually get a pair of custom made jeans! My only issue is... I *only* wear green clothes. so no bluejeans. I wonder if they'll make me green trousers.

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Postby Isotope_238 » Sun Jul 24, 2011 3:54 am UTC

Only green clothes, huh? That's pretty awesome. Mind if I ask why?

Sometimes I wish I could simplify my closet, but I shop and dress like a colorblind magpie. "Ooh, a paisley skirt! And stripey yellow dude's shirt!"
I need to post a picture of this necklace I just got. It's a little jointed robot, and I plan to wear the shit out of it when I go back to school this fall. (Sadly, none of my summer activities are receptive to funny necklaces.)

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Postby feyayeruka » Sun Jul 24, 2011 7:30 am UTC

funnily enough, I just blogged about the wearing only green thing.
http://majikfaerie.blogspot.com/2011/07/14-green.html
*shock* rainbow socks!
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Postby TaintedDeity » Sun Jul 24, 2011 4:06 pm UTC

feyayeruka wrote:funnily enough, I just blogged about the wearing only green thing.
http://majikfaerie.blogspot.com/2011/07/14-green.html
*shock* rainbow socks!
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Postby doogly » Sun Jul 24, 2011 4:57 pm UTC

feyayeruka wrote:funnily enough, I just blogged about the wearing only green thing.
http://majikfaerie.blogspot.com/2011/07/14-green.html
*shock* rainbow socks!
maybe blue jeans will be in my future

that's ridiculous. why take a step backwards? rainbow jeans next.
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Postby natraj » Sun Jul 24, 2011 5:19 pm UTC

We got one of my friends rainbow jeans for his birthday one year, they were pretty much the awesomest.
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feyayeruka wrote:funnily enough, I just blogged about the wearing only green thing.
http://majikfaerie.blogspot.com/2011/07/14-green.html
*shock* rainbow socks!
maybe blue jeans will be in my future

Your closet really does look like a forest full of greenery. So pretty.


And for your amusement, a robot necklace!
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Postby existential_elevator » Sun Jul 24, 2011 6:32 pm UTC

That's an adorable necklace! <3

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Postby feyayeruka » Sun Jul 24, 2011 10:41 pm UTC

Oh me yarm there exist rainbow jeans!?!? oh yeah!

love the robot necklace, Isotope

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Postby podbaydoor » Mon Jul 25, 2011 1:04 am UTC

Most adorable robot I've ever seen.
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Postby existential_squirrrel » Mon Jul 25, 2011 1:18 am UTC

That robot necklace is all kinds of flipping awesome!! :D Is there a back story behind how you got the necklace, Isotope?

I am going to see if there's a company that could make me a necklace with miniature lab equipment or molecules. That would make my day.

I'm not the type who wears jewellery most of the time, but I would totally wear a robot necklace or one with lab equipment/molecules on it.
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Postby existentialpanda » Mon Jul 25, 2011 2:14 am UTC

Suddenly I want a DNA necklace so badly.

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Postby feyayeruka » Mon Jul 25, 2011 2:35 am UTC

necklace? pthhh, my whole body is full of DNA.

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Postby Isotope_238 » Mon Jul 25, 2011 3:59 am UTC

No, there's no story behind the little robot. I saw the little guy on sale in a craft store and I thought he was cute, so I bought him and asked my jewelry-making sister to put a jump ring on him so I could slide him onto the chain.

I should talk to my sister about making a DNA pendant with some twisted wire and those tubular beads that probably have a technical name.

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Postby semicharmed » Mon Jul 25, 2011 9:31 am UTC

I has a link for you then, e_panda!

MolecularMuse on etsy makes awesome molecule jewelry. Little on the pricier side, but still awesome.

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Postby existentialpanda » Mon Jul 25, 2011 4:17 pm UTC

O_O Those are fantastic.

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Postby existential_squirrrel » Mon Jul 25, 2011 6:57 pm UTC

I ordered a necklace from MolecularMuse this morning :)

Can't wait to wear it... it's going to be amazing
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Postby KestrelLowing » Mon Jul 25, 2011 8:33 pm UTC

Hey!

I just wanted to ask the women thread a question: How do you feel about proposals? Specifically, the fact that the man is supposed to ask and that it should be a surprise.

While I know the obvious thing is to say that the woman can propose too, I kind of feel like that's the one thing the guy really gets to do - traditionally. Also personally, I would like to be proposed to. :oops:

I'm very fond of surprises. I love them, but it seems like a proposal, while it would be a wonderful surprise, is a little huge for it to fully be a surprise. Of course, I also think that getting a dog - while that would be an amazing surprise - is not a good thing as the person you're getting the dog for really should help pick out what dog. It's a long commitment. Getting married is even longer.

I guess I'm of the opinion that if you're going to propose to someone, you should know they're going to say yes. The only way I know how to do that is to talk about it (not a mind reader!). However, that could basically be seen as rendering a proposal moot.

So, what on earth can you do?

And yes, as you can probably tell from some of the questions I've asked recently, marriage is kind of on my mind - tons of people I know are getting engaged and while I'm not ready for that, I do want to think through some issues. Graduation is coming fast and really marks the 'totally acceptable to get married' line. It's a little scary, a little exciting.


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